If someone said to you, “God told me to marry you,” you’d probably laugh, or run, or think to yourself that that statement is more ridiculous than the tin foil hat they’re wearing! What’s more amazing is that there are some people that don’t test this with Scripture to determine if, in fact, they “heard” from God. Are believers being duped in the name of love?
There are instances where God providentially guided people to arrange a meeting like with Isaac, Rebecca, Leah, and Jacob.
And Hosea was told to marry a whore. But we’ve got to remember that just because it’s documented does not mean it’s instruction for us. If we fail to understand this, then we will do all manner of weirdness and sin like handle snakes, eat babies, and expect the donkey at the zoo to answer us.
There are guidelines the bible gives when picking a mate (or friend) and we would do well to follow them. But since this isn’t a study and the verses aren’t listed, I suggest you look them up.
Back to the lovelorn.
The reason why I bring this up is because this seems to be a common thing within the religious community. (by religion I mean Christianity and Messianics) My parents have either had their own ministry or attended ministries from Rockville, MD to Pittsburgh, PA and they say this “revelation” was very common. They couldn’t count how many times they’ve run into congregants who propagate this exact message! It’s really quite startling!
In my dad’s church, there was one man who made the same statement to almost every woman in the congregation: “God told me we’re supposed to marry and move to Turkey.” He didn’t know these women and never formally met them. And as a result, these women left because they were afraid of him. This man was eventually told to leave as well. Would God ever orchestrate events so as to drive people out from the assembly? Would He keep changing His mind or make mistakes as to whom this person is to marry? No – these do not match His character!
There was a married lady who attended my dad’s church, (and I knew this lady personally) and she believed she got a message from God. This message was to divorce her current husband and marry some guy off the internet from Morocco. She refused to listen to anyone in the congregation and defended her decision. She married the guy. (and he got his citizenship) She came to church a couple more times but then stopped completely and wants nothing to do with God. That was four years ago.
Would God tell her to break her marriage covenant for another one, then drive her away from Himself and the church? Again, No!
And most recently, a former friend of mine did almost the same thing as above. She is currently married (but he left her awhile ago) but God told this other guy that they were supposed to be married. Again, would God tell her to break her marriage covenant and marry this guy, essentially making her an adulteress and him a fornicator? No!
Think of this logically. God speaks to the husband – the head of the household usually. Why would God speak to a man who is not her head in matters regarding her? At the time they hadn’t met. (gotta love cyber-love) I asked her this and said that if God wanted her to know something, that He would tell her Himself. She said nothing. But then when the subject came up again months later, she claims that she DID hear from God. How convenient! Again, would God break up a marriage to establish a new one?
Mark 10:9 What therefore God hath joined together, let not man put asunder.
Will God break his own commandments? If God hates divorce, will He be the cause of it? Will God instruct people to become adulterous and then condemn them to hell? Will God cause anyone to draw away from Him? If we truly know and understand God, then we will already know these answers.
I think I’ve figured out Satan’s motive, besides destroying families. He knows that we are designed with a need to love and be loved. He knows it’s built into our nature to seek out a companion because that’s how God made us. So it seems he’s using this against us in order to bring ungodly people into our lives in order to drive us further from God. If God can join people together, then surely Satan can too since he counterfeits God. He’s using our God-given desire for love to destroy us! How diabolical is that!!! And this is why we see so many people in the congregations saying “God told me…” in my opinion.
In closing, if our focus was TRULY on God instead of our own desires, then we wouldn’t deceive ourselves and rationalize our sins. If we truly love God, then we would also fear Him and the consequences of disobedience.