“Heavenly Father, I come before you today to confess something, and to ask that you grant my prayer request. Please forgive me because I don’t love myself enough. I cannot fulfill your commandment to love my neighbor unless I first love myself and so I ask for your forgiveness. I also ask that you grant me the ability to love myself more because I lack in this area. In Yeshua’s name if it is Your will, Amen.”
Doesn’t this sound absurd? It should because it’s the opposite of what scripture teaches and yet there are those who believe this. Have they bought into this worldly belief which is akin to the self-esteem movement, both of which breeds pride, or have they misunderstood this verse?…
“Love your neighbor as yourself” (Jam 2:8)
Notice, the command is to love your neighbor – not to love yourself because that is already assumed. We already love ourselves by default; we think of ourselves first by default; we are selfish and prideful people by default so much so that we have to be commanded to think of others.
Does the bible mention “loving yourself?”
It sure does.
But mark this: There will be terrible times in the last days. People will be lovers of themselves, lovers of money, boastful, proud, abusive, disobedient to their parents, ungrateful, unholy, without love, unforgiving, slanderous, without self-control, brutal, not lovers of the good, treacherous, rash, conceited, lovers of pleasure rather than lovers of God – having a form of godliness but denying its power. Have nothing to do with them. (2 Tim 3:1-5)
Does ‘loving yourself’ sound like a virtue? Hopefully you can see that’s it not, given that it’s included in a long list of loathsome and vile attributes.
Nobody should seek his own good, but the good of others. (1 Corin 10:24)
For I am not seeking my own good but the good of many, so that they may be saved. (1 Corin 10:33)
These verses say that we are to seek the good of others above ourselves. One of the attributes of ‘love’ is that it’s not self-seeking. (1 Corin 13:5)
So who are we supposed to love?
We are to ‘love our enemies,’ (Luke 6:35, Mt 5:44,Luke 6:27)
Love your neighbor, (James 2:8, Lev 19:18, Matt 22:39, Gal 5:14)
Love your wives, (Col 3:19)
Love one another, (Rom 13:8, John 13:34)
We are by nature ‘lovers of ourselves.’ This is not something we have to work at. As we get nearer to the end, this love of ourselves that we have intrinsically will be magnified; that is, if we are devoid of the Holy Spirit. This idea of ‘loving ourselves’ is very worldly and occultic in nature and should be rejected by believers in Yeshua. Instead, let’s love one another as the bible commands.