Since I’ve put up this article, I’ve received a ton of emails from believers who’s spouses have left them for various reason. The majority of these wayward spouses have “the grass is greener” syndrome and this time, I’d like to focus on this issue in particular.
There will be all manner of trouble in your marriage if:
- You have different ideas about things. This is why God tell us He wants us to learn His way of thinking about things.
- If you have different goals or what you hope to achieve. This is why God tells us what He wants from us which is to be spotless, righteous and faithful to Him – to have a lifestyle of obedience and thanks towards Him.
You will never have a truly restored marriage until you both are thinking like YHVH and have the same goal which is to obey Him. (which results in faithfulness) If your spouse is the offender in your marriage, then you continue to obey Him, think like Him etc. and pray that your estranged spouse does as well. Not that he/she just returns to you, but that they return to God. Then you two can be united in Spirit and not just in the flesh. The goal is that your earthly marriage be an accurate picture of God and His bride.
Let’s just say that your cheating spouse returns to you for whatever reason outside of God. If they are not thinking like God and not acting like God, then you two are united in flesh only, not Spirit because you two aren’t acting according to the same Spirit. If you don’t think like God thinks (instead of the world) and act like Him (by obedience to His Word), then that’s when things will go wrong like unfaithfulness etc. Think about it…if your cheating spouse had the mind of God, then he/she wouldn’t even THINK about cheating on you, let alone ACT upon it.
Personally, I don’t think God cares too much about people being united in flesh only. After all, ALL things of the flesh will pass away, including this earth. Instead, I think He cares about being united in Spirit – that means for both of you to share that same Spirit and live your lives following God. I think He will more likely intervene when both parties are spiritually minded which is why He tells us to “seek His face” first, then other things will be added. And this is also why I said previously to pray for your wayward spouse but don’t pray that they come back to you because that will come later. Instead, pray for their renewed fellowship with the Father and this way you two WILL be joined in Spirit and the rest will follow. Like I said, the Lord is more concerned with the things of the Spirit rather than the flesh.